Exactly Who Am I? Crafting your Match.com Personal Statement
One of the hardest parts of setting up an online profile on Match.com is writing your personal statement. eHarmony doesn’t require a personal statement. You just have to answer 2,736 questions. It took me about three weeks to complete that questionnaire.
After you answer the standard demographic information (height, body type, hair & eye color, etc.) you have to include an essay describing who you are and what you are looking for.
You’re basically selling yourself. (Not to be confused with pimping yourself out which is completely inappropriate.) Some would call it marketing. It could even be referred to as public relations because we are trying to build relationships after all.
And you have to be able to do it in short pithy prose. Guys want to laugh without having to exert too much effort. No offense to you males out there. But that is the truth.
You need to be honest but not too honest that you scare folks off. Until you get to know me personally, you don’t need to know I have an intestinal parasite (as do almost 2.5 million people in the US annually according to the CDC). So I left that out.
Including photos of yourself is very important. No one wants to have to “Request My Photo” from someone they don’t know. What is that even about? Exactly how ugly are you? Have you not seen some of the photos posted? Could yours possibly be WORSE?
Middle-aged white guys seem to like having their pictures taken on boats and motorcycles and while holding freshly caught fish and dead animals.
I have seen enough photos of middle-aged men on boats and motorcycles and while holding freshly caught fish and dead animals to last me a lifetime. And I’ve only been doing this for a few weeks.
So, I’ve answered the required questions, written my personal statement and posted some photos (sans boats, motorcycles, fish or dead animals). I guess it’s time to kick back and let the eDating begin.
A part of my profile is posted is below. I’ll let you know what happens.
About my life and what I’m looking for
What does a bleeding heart liberal with a wild side look like? Like me.
I am a professional who works in the nonprofit sector and am passionate about making the world a better place – so much so that I am working on a PhD in public policy & administration.
I’m just passionate in general. Folks tell me I’m exuberant. I have lots of energy and believe that no matter what you do, there should be some element of fun to it. My daughter says my laugh is obnoxious. My friends say it’s infectious.
I’m not looking for a husband. I had one of those. I want a man who is comfortable in his own skin and knows what he wants out of life. If you enjoy laughing, music, good wine, adventure and excitement, then I’m your gal.
For the record, I believe adventure and excitement can be found everywhere – inside a home as well as outside of it.
If you have an open mind and an open heart and the ability to laugh at yourself, share your thoughts and feelings and talk about the inane as well as the important, then I’d love to meet you.
Life is what you make of it and I want to make it worth living. Want to join me?
